Your partner’s lens
FreeSee it through what they bring — history, fears, what they’re trying to protect.
The private AI relationship coach · made in EUYou’re not wrong.
You’re not wrong.
Neither are they.
Refrakto shows the same moment through ten different lenses — like your partner’s lens, a therapist’s lens, your attachment lens, your future self’s lens, and six more. So you stop fighting about who’s right and start seeing what they see.
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The situation
“He was on his phone the whole dinner. When I asked him about it, he said I was being too much. Now I’m wondering if I even matter to him anymore.”
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Your partner’s lens
From his side, he probably came home worn out from a hard day. The phone was the one thing that didn’t ask anything of him. When he said “too much,” he meant he had nothing left to give — not that your question was wrong.
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Encrypted in transit and at restNot therapy — a coaching toolMade in EU · EU-hosted serversNever trained on · Never sold
The wedge · no one else does this
One moment. Ten lenses.
Tell Refrakto what’s happening. Then watch the same fight, decision, or text message look completely different from ten different angles — each one a real framework therapists use every day.
The therapist
FreeA Gottman-method-grounded read on the dynamic. Neutral. Specific.
The attachment lens
ProYour style × their style. Where the dance gets stuck.
The vulnerability lens
ProWhere shame, fear, or unmet need is quietly driving the fight.
The desire lens
ProWhat you’re really longing for under the conflict — and how to ask for it directly.
The childhood lens
ProPatterns from your family of origin replaying — yours, theirs.
Five years from now
ProHow Future-You will look back at this moment.
The best friend
ProA wise, loving best friend with no stake in the outcome.
The stranger
ProAn impartial outsider with no history. Often the most useful one.
“Both are right”
ProThe view from which both truths are simultaneously valid.
Pick 2 lenses on the free plan. Pick all 10 on Pro. Save the comparison. Share an anonymized snippet with your partner. Re-run with different lenses anytime.
How it works
Three steps. Five minutes to first words.
- 01
Tell us what’s going on.
A few sentences is plenty. Names, what was said, how it felt — specific is useful and stays on your account.
- 02
Pick your lenses, or your tool.
Choose 2–10 lenses to see the moment from different angles, or roleplay the conversation before you have it.
- 03
See your patterns.
When the same pattern keeps coming up across your chats, Refrakto shows you a small note on your home page — “You’ve mentioned X a few times. Want to talk about it?” The kind of pattern that’s hard to spot when you’re in the middle of it.
What people say
You’re not the only one.
I never know what to say in the moment.
We keep having the same fight.
I want to set a boundary but it always comes out wrong.
I just wish I could see it from their side once.
Why does every conversation become a fight?
I don’t even know what I’m feeling underneath.
Everything else
Five tools. One quiet companion.
Lenses are the headline. These are the rest of the toolkit — every one of them something people wished they had.
Headline
The Lens feature
Ten frameworks. One moment. The wedge above — see the same fight through ten different angles.
Roleplay rehearsal
Practice the hard conversation before you have it. Set the scene. The AI plays the other person. You practice. Then you get a coach’s read on what landed.
Pro
Pattern detection
When the same pattern keeps coming up in your chats, Refrakto shows you a small note on your home page: “You’ve mentioned X a few times.” Not advice, not a diagnosis — just the kind of pattern that’s hard to notice when you’re in the middle of it.
Private memory
It remembers your partner, the patterns, the names, the fights you’ve worked through — so you don’t re-explain. Stored only on your account. Never trained on.
Safety
Crisis routing — sacred
If you mention suicide, abuse, or partner violence, we stop being a coach. We surface the right hotline for your country, directly, no preamble.
Your data, your terms
Private by design. Honest by promise.
Refrakto is built around the things you’d want any tool with your relationship in it to do: keep your data in Europe, encrypt it everywhere it travels, never train on it, never sell it. Coaching tool, not a clinical service.
- Made in EU. EU-hosted servers — your data never leaves the region.
- Encrypted in transit with TLS, and at rest at the database layer.
- We never train on your conversations. Not now. Not ever.
- We never sell your data. No ad networks. No data brokers.
- Export everything or delete your account in one click from Settings.
Pricing
Start free.
Founder is the deal.
Cancel anytime. All prices in EUR.
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Free
Try the Lens feature, no card needed.
€0forever
- 3 messages per day (chat + lens + roleplay combined)
- 2 lenses (out of 10)
- Web access — encrypted on your device
Founder
Full Pro at €9.99/mo — locked for 3 months, then €14.99/mo. First 100 only.
€9.99/month
96 of 100 spots left
- Unlimited messages
- All 10 lenses
- Roleplay rehearsal
- Pattern detection on home
- Persistent encrypted memory
- Priority access to new lenses
- €9.99/mo for your first 3 months, then €14.99/mo unless you cancel
Individual
Full Pro for one person, working on yourself.
€14.99/month
- Unlimited messages
- All 10 lenses
- Roleplay rehearsal
- Pattern detection on home
- Persistent encrypted memory
- Priority access to new lenses
FAQ
The questions everyone asks.
Generic chatbots give you an opinion. The Lens feature gives you the same moment seen through ten distinct frameworks, side by side: your partner’s lens, a therapist’s lens, an attachment lens, a vulnerability lens, a desire lens, the childhood-patterns lens, the five-years- from-now lens, a best friend’s lens, an impartial stranger’s lens, and the “both are right” lens. It’s not advice. It’s perspective. Nobody else does this.
No. Refrakto is a coaching tool, not a clinical service. It complements therapy — it doesn’t replace it. If you’re in crisis or need clinical care, we route you to local hotlines and licensed providers immediately.
Yes — and in plain words. Your data is encrypted in transit (TLS) and at rest at the database layer. Servers are EU-hosted, so nothing leaves the region. We never train on your conversations, and we never sell your data — not to ad networks, not to data brokers, not to anyone. You can export everything you’ve ever shared, or delete your account in one click, from Settings. The privacy page spells out the legal basis (GDPR Article 9(2)(a) consent at signup).
Most general AI tools give you one answer at a time and don’t remember you between sessions. Refrakto is built specifically for reflecting on relationships: every feature — the ten Lenses, roleplay rehearsal, pattern detection — is designed around the actual moments people get stuck in. And Refrakto does remember your context (your people, the patterns, what you’ve worked through) so you don’t re-explain yourself every time.
If you mention suicide, abuse, or being hurt by someone, Refrakto stops being a coach. Right away, we surface the relevant crisis hotlines for your country and encourage you to reach a human who can actually help.Refrakto is not a crisis service — this is a safety handoff, not a replacement.
It’s permanently deleted — conversations, notes, patterns, everything. If you have an active subscription, deletion is scheduled for the end of your current billing period so you keep access to what you paid for; you can undo the scheduled deletion any time before it runs. You can also export everything you’ve ever shared as a single file before deleting.
Yes — Roleplay Rehearsal is built for exactly this. Tell Refrakto who you’re talking to and what you want to say. Refrakto plays them; you practice the back-and-forth. When you finish, you get a short reflection on what landed, what to retune, and three short phrases you could carry into the real conversation. Encrypted in transit and at rest, like everything else.
Yes — anytime, no friction. Your subscription runs to the end of the current billing period and then stops. The founder price-lock is a guarantee, not a contract — you can leave whenever.
Your subscription automatically continues at the standard Individual rate of €14.99/mo until you cancel.
Our team is building it now — it’ll launch soon. Until then the web app works beautifully on iPhone: open Refrakto in Safari and add to home screen for an app-like feel.
Find the words. Find the pattern.
Find each other.
Free to start. Founder pricing for the first 100 — €9.99/mo, locked for 3 months.